Are you a victim of self-criticism?

In this day and age when it is hard to find people with a sound conscience, it is indeed heartening to come across somebody who does the required self introspection and ponders over his or her life’s greater purpose. But some of us tend to wade way deeper than required. We allow our inner judgmental self gain control over us in a range and manner that is much more than required. You end up having harrowing thoughts of the past and scary notions of the future, with not an inkling of mind left to understand what lies in store for you to enjoy and appreciate in the present.

Identifying the Root Cause

When you end up finding fault with yourself at every juncture, you end up weaving a cocoon of self-hatred, self-pity and fear and hide yourself inside it, away from the eyes and ears of the world. More often than not, you end up in situations wherein it becomes close to impossible for anybody to yank you out of it. Trust me, the well of self-criticism goes deeper and deeper unto infinity. It is therefore important for you to understand that the only person who can help yourself is you. The best thing to do would be to calm yourself and identifying the root causes of your self-hatred. But instead of working towards eliminating them, you need to work towards accepting them. No being can ever be perfect, we are dynamic entities forever changing in the physical, mental and spiritual realm. If we can proudly accept our strengths as a badge of honor, why cannot we do the same thing for our weaknesses?

Accept your Flaws

Remember, at the end of the day, your strengths and weaknesses are what complete you as a person. No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to completely eliminate all your flaws. A wise person who wants to be at peace with himself or herself, will therefore try and make peace with those very flaws. While the scope for self improvement is always there, and being complacent is not what’s being proposed here, a certain level of self-acceptance is important for one to live in peace and harmony with oneself and the surroundings. Only a person who loves himself or herself is capable of spreading love, peace and joy amongst others. And this is exactly what I’ve been trying to do with this ‘Touch of Love’!